Are you tuning out or tuning in?

Are you spending time escaping your life? Becoming a little unconscious to the crazy busy world? Do any of these things resonate with you?

• Sleeping in more than you'd like at the weekends and your snooze button is worn out

• Getting down that bottle of wine without really realising it

• Polishing off a large packet of your favourite snack in record time in automatic pilot mode

• Not able to help getting involved in the latest office drama

• Collecting those busy badges of honor

• Scrolling and rolling on social media for hours until your eyes are so tired you have to go to bed

• Binge watching box sets until you feel ready to throw up

• Not being able to speak to anyone before your first of a million coffees

All of these things are deadening the voice inside you. They are tuning you out from your inner voice. That inner voice that would tell you if something is off or out of balance. Something may be out of kilter and needs your attention. Perhaps there is a truth that you don't want to hear? And it's not always the first thing that we feel.

The trouble with escaping it all is that often these things that disguise themselves as pleasurable, and it is easier not to listen in because, you are telling yourself you don't have time or it'll blow over eventually. However, one day those emotions and thoughts you are pushing to the side will start to spill over. And when we don't have the inner awareness to acknowledge our fears and emotions we can be so out of touch with them that this can spark a negative effect on our outer experiences, relationships and on how our business is going.

This can show up in our outer experiences in many ways:

• You finish working late and no-one has tidied the kitchen (again). You feel less than valued and end up shouting at the person you are supposed to love the most.

• You wake up late for an appointment and struggle to have patience with the other drivers on the road who seem to be intent on making you later than ever.

• You don't get an answer to the text you just sent, so you text someone else for attention and when they don't answer straight away you feel hurt and angry.

• Everyone at work is just plain annoying 99% of your day, it's more comfortable to hibernate at your desk than to potentially have a conflict in the office.

• You never have quality time with your loved ones there's just too much to do and not enough time to do it all in. This is making you feel depressed.

• You just want an hour to yourself but your diary is constantly packed out with things for everyone else but you.

• You never seem to get past that financial target and are consistently worried about your outgoings

It's just not sustainable to continue to live in this way. More importantly you're probably not feeling like you're really living if this is your experience of life. The reason is because your emotions are not being felt and expressed, you're avoiding what's really going on and you're scared to face that voice inside because it is going to tell you the truth, and so you go round in circles day after day, week after week. And there may be a deeper message that you are ignoring.

For example:

• You're feeling disconnected in your closest relationship - so you shout at the dog

• You're feeling down about your career or business but you're too fearful to change - so you keep procrastinating talking to your boss

• You feel lonely - so you keep berating yourself for not finding that person you crave a close connection with

• You had a hurtful experience in the past that you never want to go back to again - so you keep a distance from people who remind you

There is a way back to truth that will help you on your journey to getting back to feeling more alive, regain balance with your emotions and get back to feeling good again each and every day.

There is bad news and good news :)

The good news:

It is entirely your choice to feel more alive and even better than you ever thought possible and the way you can begin to do it is totally free.

The bad news:

You are going to get uncomfortable doing it.

What is the answer? SILENCE.

Yep. Silence.

Silence can change your life as it allows you to listen to the truth. It's the way the light gets back into your life. When you become quiet silence will speak to you. It will be your greatest teacher. It will support you to process the emotions, thoughts and beliefs you have been escaping from. Sound a bit strange?

Listen to silence. It has so much to say. Rumi

Giving yourself the gift of silence will open up a powerful space for you to listen to that voice within and let go of what is causing you to disconnect with yourself so often, and yes it could get a little uncomfortable along the way, but with support it's a small price to pay to feel the freedom of actually living.

Next time you feel like numbing out from your day to day life, instead of reaching for that second or third glass of vino, try taking a few moments of silence, perhaps take quiet walk and see if there is a thought or emotion present. Try listening and connecting with your breathing, and experience the moment with all of your senses. Just be. An experience of connecting with yourself in this way may well have an important and enlightening message for you that might just change your life and your business.

Have you tried connecting with yourself through silence?

If you'd like to explore the power of silence further, why not consider an online or offline retreat where you can take some time away to reconnect with your inner world?

Opening up to receiving more into your life

Do you truly desire to do more work that you love, create more soul connected clients and create your life from your heart? Well you need to learn to receive if you wish to really do this!

If you want to create the right connections, first you must work on the connection with yourself. When you learn to receive as well as give (unconditionally) you become open and are able to let go of the control and conditions you are putting on your life, your work, yourself and others.

Esther Hicks talks about finding the path of least resistance. That path is within, within you, your inner guidance will always offer you the path that is easiest for you. When we open up we find that path. Often the blocks to what we truly desire are known to us, but we are afraid to open up to them. Practicing self compassion and compassion for others is part of the essential groundwork that will support you to let go of what is no longer serving you and help you to open up to create your life as your true self.

I have recorded this meditation for you to support you moving into this space.

If you would like further support and guidance on connecting with your truth and creating and leading your life and work from your heart I’d love to welcome you into my free facebook group Radiant Leaders